Job: Pupil Support Officer
Children: 3 boys (1 step son)
What surprised you most about having children?
How I was able to
love so much. It literally makes your muscles cramp and feels like it oozes out
of your pores. I’ve always been quite a selfish person, but was amazed that
that changed so much too.
What’s the hardest thing about being a parent?
The hardest part is
when your child is in pain physically or emotionally. Trying to explain to them
why someone would want to hurt them when they have done nothing wrong is heart breaking.
It’s also very hard when your child is obviously upset with you. It’s instinct
to do everything in your power to make your child feel better, but when you are
the reason it feels horrendous!
What do you wish you’d been told before having a baby?
I wish someone had
told me about what happens after labour with the placenta!!! It’s like a whole
second labour and feels like you’re being turned inside out! I was glad to have
been warned about day 9 emotional dip though, as if I hadn’t I may have been
convinced I was going mad!
How can someone best help a friend who has just had a baby?
The best way to help a friend who has just had a baby is to bring them food! Find out what they like and bring it to them. Often new parents don’t have time to eat or cook or are literally too tired to think about eating and there is nothing better than a getting a lovely, hot, healthy meal without even having to think about making it.
Do you have any advice for other mums or anyone planning on having a baby?
The best piece of advice to mums or future mums…? Give yourself a break!!! No mum is perfect, even the pushy social media queen!! Mums will only post positive moments on Facebook/Instagram but remember that is not real life. Parenthood is hard and messy and smelly and mostly thankless, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s the little things that make it great, the way their wee faces light up when they see you, what happy little things they are in the mornings and the fact that your face is the last thing they want to see before they go to sleep. It’s true what people say about it being the best yet worst job in the world and I agree, except it’s not a job it’s a privilege!